Chapter 9

Friendship_

:- is an interpersonal relationship
:- must be mutually productive
:- characterized by mutual positive regard
# trust
# emotional support
# sharing interest

friendship types
# the friendship of reciprocity - close friend
# the friendship of receptivity - teacher & student , doctor & patient
# the friendship of association - classmate

function of friendship
# utility purposes - help you to achieve your specific goals and need
# affirmation - help you to recognize your attributes
# ego support - someone who behave in supportive & encouraging
# stimulation - help you to expand your worldview
# security - someone who does nothing to hurt you

develop stages of friendship 
#initial contact & acquaintanceship
- the first stage of friendship
- impressions are formed
- important to stay open & welcoming of the presence of your new acquaintance
#casual friendship
- the second stage of friendship
- dyadic consciousness take place
- doing things together
# close and intimate friendship
- the third stages of friendship
- most intimate forms of togetherness

Friendship affected by :
# friendship & culture
:- different culture would bring different meaning to friendship & relationship
# friendship & gender
:- male & female view friendship & relationship differently
# friendship & technology
:- the meaning of friendship has been diluted by the improvement & usage of technology in our lives

Romantic relationship_

type of love : 

#Eros

:- erotic, sensual, desire, lust

:- love that come out physical attraction, beauty & appearance

#ludus

;- excitement, fun, entertainment

:- often seeking temporary measures and ways to fulfill their need & have fun 

#Storge

:- peaceful and slow

:- act of seeking for love but with the absence of passion and emotion the process

#Pragma

:- practical and traditional

:- more concerned of the ability of the other partner & the benefit that gain from the relationship

#Mania 

:- extremist of opposites

:- they love the thrill of having love & at the same time is depressed or worries of having love

#Agape 

:- unconditional love

:- loving another with no favor expected in return

:- love of parent to their child

Love and communication 

# love and culture

# love and gender

# love and technology

Families_

:- Each family has their own uniqueness and characteristics, but they do normally follow a certain set of rules and criteria, such as

# defined roles

# recognition of responsibilities

# shared history & future

# shared living space

Types of family

# traditional couples

:- the conventional form of a family

# independent couples

:- individuals in this family setting stresses individuality as the main theme in the family

# separate couples

:- this family setting is not really a family but individuals in this family stay together for a common benefit

family and communication

# equality 

:- Individual in families would often seek an equal terms of respect, love and understanding with one another

# balanced split 

:- families with a balanced split have a balanced amount of responsibilities

# unbalanced split 

:- a mother having to work for money and taking care of the home but the father just stay at home unemployed and not even doing the housework.

# monopoly

:- one person is the authority

 

family and culture

:- Highly individualist cultures would not have a conductive setting for a healthy family

family and technology

:- family are more active in conversation, with one another  the quality and value of those conversations are diluted and almost meaningless and lack sincerity

exp : using email , text message or facebook